Fall In Love With You!!!

I'll be completing the Believe Ye Receive series but I got a little note from Mike Dooley this morning and it set me off. A few of you may remember Mike Dooley from the movie, “The Secret”. Well Mike has this great FREE service where he sends these wonderful uplifting notes to you everyday. Take a few minutes, after reading this, of course, to swing by Mike's and sign up for your own notes. Click here to visit The Adventurer's Club. My thanks to Mike for the inspiration for this.

Do you love you? How do you feel about spending time with yourself? Do you spend time avoiding yourself? Do you find yourself in pointless relationships with people you don't even really like or doing things you'd rather not, all because you are avoiding yourself?

Taken on the face of it, the question Do you love you is a simple one but as human beings there are complexities for all of us. We are not just face value people. We are complicated, with complicated back stories and skeletons we believe are better left hidden. However, as we start to hide parts of ourselves, we begin to lose parts of ourselves and we forget who we are. Pretty soon we're avoiding ourselves like the plague.

How many of you are filling your days and nights with things to keep you occupied so you don’t have deal with the person in the mirror? Maybe you’re afraid to even look in the mirror, or put down the drink, or let that lover go or whatever it is that you are doing to keep from really getting into you.

Self-hatred is a universal concept. Even people raised in the best of places by other people who had the best intentions can fall into its clutches. So how do you get out and get back to loving you?

First let me add that self-hatred has a lot of guises. You may believe that it is your fat thighs that are keeping you from getting ahead or your lack of education that is keeping you down. Those things only have as much power as you allow them to have. They mean absolutely nothing about you. Perhaps someone abused you and capped it off by telling you that you were nothing or a dummy or maybe they did worse. Yes it happened and the pain is real, but that is all that is real.

Self-hatred hardly ever springs from nowhere. We are indoctrinated into it. Indoctrinated is another word for brainwashed. People who have power over us either through evil machinations or just because they don't know any better belittle and terrorize us into believing that what is happening is our fault. That fault becomes our bag and we carry it around and as other things happen, we fold more stuff and put it in the bag and before you know it we're weighed down with hating ourselves for things that other people have done.

It doesn't have to stay this way. When we learn better, we can do better. I believe in 100% responsibility. If you don't know that your life can be different then you have no responsibility but once you learn that things can change then it is your responsibility to set about changing them. No one is saying that this quest for self-love is easy, but it is so worth it.

The most important thing that you change, to start, is your mind. Up to now, you may have been on auto-pilot when it comes to belittling and berating yourself, but from this moment forward you have the power to DECIDE that your life can be different. All it really takes is speaking it with authority. Of course, if you go to church or somewhere religious, prayer and meditation can also be helpful. However, the most important thing is making it up in your mind that your life can be different. I've used that phrase a lot. That incredibly simple concept of it can be different has been one of the most profound things that has ever happened in my life. The true and complete understanding that the way I was living, the things that I was allowing myself to put up with didn't have to be. The most freeing thing was coming to the knowledge that I held the key. I didn't have to wait for a man to come and free me from my dungeon. I could do it myself. I say do it myself but that is a misnomer. Help is available. I hope you’ll treat this blog as a resource.

My help came in the form of a woman named Belanie Dishong. I attended a seminar hosted by her called "Beyond Circumstances". I recommend it to anyone who has made the decision to relinquish their hold on the baggage of the past. While this seminar was not the first thing I’d ever done along the lines of self-discovery, it was the first thing that allowed me to find the hurt and relieve the hurt and pain of its power. As I said I recommend whole-heartedly.

If you aren’t able or ready to attend a seminar right off the bat, then there are some things that you can do to start to heal yourself. I am not a doctor or a psychotherapist, so I am sharing things that have worked for me.

Exercise: Think about the thing that you like least about yourself. Whatever it may be. Say something positive and loving about it. I love my _____________. Repeat the phrase throughout the day to yourself. Write it down and keep it on a card and look at it. The goal is start to change your mind and there is a science to it. Repetition of the phrase will start to make it more real and over time more believable. Over time you can ad things to the list. It may see simplistic but the vast majority of life’s changes only take a small shift in thinking.

Finally here a few directives to take with you.

DECIDE your life will be different
BE AWARE of what you are saying and thinking about yourself.
STOP taking the blame for things that are not your fault.
REPLACE negatives with positives.

Manifesting...Start With Your Mindset

Believe Ye Receive and Ye Shall Have It Part I

The core concept in manifesting is to develop your faith. Faith without doubt is our strongest ally when it comes to getting the things that we desire. Thee are many who believe that manifesting the desires of your heart is an ungodly concept. Nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact the word says in to delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Mark 11:23 - 24 in the Amplified bible version says "Truly I tell you whoever says to theat mountaun, be lifted up and thrown into the sea and does not doubt at all in his heart but believes that what he says will take place, it will be done for him. For this reason I am telling you, whatever you aks for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) that is is granted to you, and you will get it." Isn't that what the Law of Attraction is saying, believe that you will have the things that you ask for?

Admittedly because of all of our past woes and hurts we find it hard to put complete faith in things because we feel like we've been let down. The truth is that yes all of us have experienced hurts and let downs, but what is absolutely fantastic is that we can start today to relinquish our hold on that pain and use that energy to put toward building our faith. There are those who think either you have faith o you don't but I see faith as a sort of muscle. The more we start to focus on it and use it, the more developed it becomes.

One way to start to build your faith muscle is to start to be aware of the miraculous in your daily life. I am not one of those who subscribes to the theory that God stopped working miracles. If you stop for a minute and take a look at your life, you will see the miracles. I understand everything around you may seem like it's going wrong but it is still okay, because that is temporary and it is within your power to fix. Miracles happen everyday. They may be as small as me finding a dime on the side walk or as big as a 2 month deferment on my car payment or bigger still.

The reason I say to start to look for the miraculous,is because as you begin to look for and find the miraculous, you will start to experience more gratitude. Thankfulness is our gift to God and it opens up myriad doors and ushers manifold blessings in through them. You are acknowledging the good in spite of any bad that might linger. Give your attention to the good and the miraculous and eventually the bad will wither away. It is those things that garner our sincere focus that seem to expand.

Because of faulty programming, many of us have been taught to focus on the bad and take the good for granted. However,to build faith and prepare for long lasting success we have to do just the opposite. We have to take for granted the bad and focus on the good. So often we wonder why so many bad things seem to be happening but we are constantly engaging our pysche in a plethora of worst case scenarios and not allowing that which is good to get a toe-hold.

At the place where you are in your life, the things I'm saying may seem like an utter impossibility. That's okay as well, because I understand completely that no one changes overnight and even those of us who are paractitioners of the Law of Attraction, if we are honest, would tell you that there are still struggles. So do not despair. We are all of us striving to be and do our best. The Law of attraction gives us tools to get a leg up by helping us to understand the detrimental role that negative actions and thoughts play in our lives.

"But how can I believe if I am always let down." Well for starters, you must and this is crucial, change the way you talk to yourself.

Exercise: Begin to say this affirmation daily "I love and accept myself completely and without judgement.

If you don't believe it at first, keep saying it. We are going to revisit affirmations later on and this affirmation in particular because it is part of a set of tools that we will talk about and hopefully you will become adept at using. For now, however, just concentrate on that affirmation. Now you may not be new to affirmations and you may have several tht you are already saying, but if you are not getting the results you want then it is time to dig a little deeper.

So why this particular affirmation? Because most of our issues spring a belief that we are not worthy. Whether it's because of our weight, skin color, background or any number of things we feel that we don't deserve to have and as a result we manifest lack in our lives. Our lives are a results of our thoughts and feelings about ourselves. This affirmations starts to get to the core of that thing. If you find yourself balking at the affirmation then that is definitely where the work needs to begin. The goal is to start to believe that you accept yourself completely and without judgement and once you believe it then start to make it core part of your make up. Like the knowledge that 2 plus 2 is 4. It is with that same resolute knowledge that you accept yourself completely and without judgement.

I understand that there are so many things that go on in a day that can bring you up short and cause you to lapse back into negative thoughts and negative self talk. I wear a rubber band on my wrist and when I start to lapse. I snap myself back to my positive place. The rubber band is nothing new. It's been used as a behavior modification technique for a number of years, but it simple and dirt cheap and virtually instantaneous. So try it out.

I have to go but I'll be back with Part II very soon.